difference between bitter and better is ‘I’

July 15, 2012 by  
Filed under Blog, prayer, scg

The difference between being better and bitter is I.

I think the older you get as a single gal, the easier it can be to become bitter about your so called love life (or lack of one). You walk down the aisle in your friends weddings after college graduation, then you attend the weddings of your cousins (who are 10 years younger than you), and then your nieces fall in love or your younger sister finds her soulmate. At first it doesn’t affect you too much. You think, good for them, I know it will happen to me, any day now. But any day can turn in to a year and then 5, 10, 15, 20 years of ‘Wishing and hoping and thinking and praying’, you can began to think ‘it’s not going to happen’ and become bitter. (If you’re not there yet, good for you! And keep your eyes set on the heavenly goal, Jesus!) 

The other day I saw the word bitter and thought to myself that there is only one small difference between the words, bitter and better, ‘I’. Becoming bitter is all about ‘I’. I didn’t get what ‘I’ wanted, things didn’t turn out the way ‘I’ thought they would, etc. therefore ‘I’ am bitter. 


Bitterness can take a deep root within your heart and can lead to other sins as well. But do not fear, we are reminded in Ezekiel 36:26: A new heart also will I give you, and a new spirit will I put within you.

What are some ways to help in the process?

Let’s get ‘I’ out of the picture and replace it with an ‘e’ for ‘everyone else’. Bitter to Better. Focusing on others takes us out of ourself, brings us to community and allows our hearts to grow.

Change the way you think. Stop that pattern of ‘woe is me’ or ‘I don’t have this or that’ and focus on the incredible things you do have! Just because you may not be married, does not mean that you are any less of a human being and don’t have great things to offer our world. It also doesn’t mean that you can’t be happy and fulfilled. 

Help others. Volunteer. Give. Live. 

Pray. Ask for forgiveness for any bitterness you may have, whether it’s toward being single or something else in your life. Ask the Lord to give you comfort in your sorrow, strength in your trial, hope for the future and thanksgiving for the gifts you do have. 

What else can you suggest that will help ‘I’ become better? 


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One Response to “difference between bitter and better is ‘I’”
  1. Olivia says:

    I like this a lot. Thanks for posting!

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